Please meet the: "It's not your fault. I'm like fly paper for the emotionally disturbed" (from "Californication"), also known as the "Florence Nightingale Effect".
Do you remember prince charming? The blondie one with the white horse, the one so boring and expected? Good.
Well, forget him.
If there's the Florence Nightingale Effect there cannot be any prince. No prince, no horses, no tale, no castles: just pain, going crazy, feeling exhausted, sick and tired. And that's exactly what we really want when we're so F.N.E. stoned. Yeah, because its is the only spell we go through in this bedtime story horror of us, with the only difference that we don't need a Cinderella's kiss but a Tyson's smack right in the middle of the face to get finally aware of what everyone already knows but us. And that's all what we'll get: no exceptions, get over it.
Once upon a time there was a good, nice girl with a perfectly normal life who, suddenly, met him: here he comes, McHandsome, teh "too good to be true", as unbelievably beautiful as damned, teh jerk, teh bombastic bully, teh wannabe James Dean. And then is when her troubles begin.
Because that's the moment when the Florence Nightingale, winding and latent inside us all, marches out and ruin the naive, pure and clean life of our little girl, still convinced to be Cindafuckin'rella, not yet awakened and fell out of bed understanding instead to be just an ordinary, loser human being as everybody in the Universe.
Yeah, because that's when you start thinking, for the first time (but not the last of course) the worst thing you can actually think about: that you'll be his exception being able to change him.
No, dear, you are not, you can't change none but your hair stylist at most. You're screaming to her: "let it go sweetie! Run as long as you can, run fast and don't stop, don't turn back!".
But she's already gone, she's already not listening at her consciousness anymore. She's already to far away with her intentions to be saved while she's already wearing her nurse hat, freaking out to save him, teh love of her life.
She can't change nor save a man, but she doesn't still know that. And when she'll finally understand it, it will be inexorably too late to going back: he will have already completely changed she and her life. It will already be a disaster.
I'm a little Florence Nightingale too.
Today, a friend of mine told me he thinks it to be a feature of all Pisces. I guess he could actually be right. To us, it's just a natural thing: it's instinct, we can't fight it back because is just what we are, it's a force from the very inside which will always be a part of us. We are convicted to act like this each single time we love, it doesn't really matter if we're talking about a lover or a friend, a relative or someone we don't even known at all: we are forced, driven to act like this.
Probably, we are just a lost cause. And when it comes to love affairs it's even worst: we can't change our James Dean but we don't give up either until he steals and breaks our heart into thousand pieces. And, above all, we are not able to fall in love but with them. Prince charming who saves us, treating us like princesses, who loves us unconditionally and deeply, treating us in the right way, is just not for us.
But that James Dean won't change. A selfish is just a selfish, a self-centred is just a self-centred: he will not put us at the very centre of his life, we won't become his world, don't matter how much we can actually love him: we'll be always the only one to go all in with the entire packet: heart, soul, body and mind. If he's a jerk, he will not be a jerk to everybody but you: don't even hope it. We are not so that special to be able to fix a mess like that: truth is there is nothing to fix, they are not broken, they're just what they are as exactly as we are. Just because this is every woman's dream it doesn't mean it will become real. A dream is just a dream, an illusion even worst.
Mr Big, Edward Lewis don't exist in the real life. Or, better, their surprising and positive evolution made of total love towards their women doesn't: live with it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_B9uWjSrzs
Monday, November 30, 2009
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